Date night was last night and it was long overdue. Dinner and "22 Jump Street" was planned but instead it was dinner and coffee, the line up to purchase our tickets would have made us miss the first 20 mins at least. It was simple but one of the best nights we have had together in a long time. We laughed so hard that my nose and eyes were watering. Now picture that at the same time, while almost wetting my pants (other Mum's will understand) Gross hey!
It was a strange feeling being baby less...
I could eat my dinner without interruption
I wasn't carrying a million wipes, nappies, spare clothes and a heavy nappy bag
I didn't have to lug a 8.8kg toddler in and out of the car
Nor was I Pushing a pram with a babe that always wants to stand when the safety warning clearly states "No Standing"
But it hit me the most when Will said "It feels weird holding hands hey?". But the truth is, it did. It's not something we avoid it's just something that I guess can get lost in amongst the early years of having a child. Always running after a toddler. Alone time together is limited.
Our date wasn't an intimate romantic night with candles lit, bottle of red wine with soft dinner music playing. In fact it was quite the opposite in a restaurant that sets of a really weird vibe and atmosphere. The food however never disappoints and for this reason we always return and they have named us their "regulars". It didn't matter the content of the night, it was simply the time we were able to spend together alone. I came home from our night on a high, we needed that simple but crucial time together just to laugh and hold hands. It's true that laughing is medicine, not that we were sick in the first place but it's good for the body, soul and spirit.
Mummies I know our lives can be non stop exhausting and it's so hard to find the time to spend alone with our husbands/partners at times but please find the time. You need it and so does your other half. It reconnects you together. It doesn't have to be expensive. In fact last christmas Will's present was 12 envelopes named January through to December. Each month Will opens the corresponding envelope to find a pre planned date. I must admit the last three months we haven't actually gone on the dates, so we have some catching up to do but they are organised and we just have to arrange a babysitter and go. Most of them are very inexpensive so don't think you have to spend a fortune every month just to go on a date because we know first hand how hard it can be sometimes, especially with only one income. I'm not a relationship guru by any means but the value in time alone is crucial. If you can't find a babysitter ask me, I'm actually serious, just ask!!!!!!
God gently reminded me today that it's so easy to become lost in life sometimes that I can forget to laugh and hold hands with the Him, the One who loves me the most. The One that just wants me to take hold of his outstretched hand for no other reason than to be alone with him and laugh. I just love how He always gives me little nudges and reminders of what He yearns from me. It can change the course of your day. Laugh and hold hands.
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